Consigli Ruggerio Funeral Home

Pamela F. “Pam” Lavendier, 54,

    Pamela F. “Pam” Lavendier, 54, of Upton, passed away Monday, October 28th, 2019 at her home. She was the wife of Rhonda J. (Cameron) Pilla. They were together for 18 years. She is survived by her mother Cathy McCarthy of Jamaica Plain, her daughters Melissa Cote and her fiancée Frank Abadie of Middleboro, Bonnie Flink and her husband Rob Flink of Uxbridge, her son Zach Pilla and his fiancée Nadia Hucko of Brighton, her Aunt Jean of New Jersey, grandchildren, Chloe and Cameron Flink of Uxbridge, her niece TayaLynn, as well as being deeply loved by Auntie and Uncle, Bonnie and Kevin Lally.            

    She was born in New Bedford and lived in Norton, Attleboro, and Watertown before moving to Upton in 2013. She was a graduate of Norton High School, Class of 1983 and was a United States Army Veteran. She also attended Bristol Community College where she received an Associate’s Degree in Criminal Justice.            

    Pam was presently employed as an Accountant at New English Family Dentistry in Marlboro. She was previously employed at Stern-Leach in Attleboro as an Inventory Control Specialist and for Aegis Corporation as a security guard where she worked at many concerts and sporting events.            

    As many of you know, Pam loved sports, but most importantly, her Bruins. She was an avid golfer as well. She loved all things New England sports, including the Patriots and Red Sox.            

    Visiting hours will be held Friday, November 1, 2019 from 5:00pm to 7:00pm at the Consigli-Ruggerio Funeral Home, 46 Water Street, Milford, MA. Funeral service will be held Saturday, November 2, 2019 at 10:30am at the United Parish of Upton, 1 Church Street, Upton, MA.

    Followed by a reception at the Willow Brook Restaurant 16 Hasting St. Mendon Ma.

    The burial will be at the convenience of the family.

    In lieu of flowers, donations in Pam’s name can be made to the Home for Little Wanderers, 10 Guest Street, Boston, MA 02135.

Guest Book

My deepest sympathy to Rhonda and family! Pam was a great person and was liked by many at Clean Harbors. Rest In Peace buddy!
Dawn-Marie Ryan

I was Pam’s math teacher and friend from Norton High School. I gave her rides to NHS when you went into foster care. I will always remember her kindness and perseverance. I am so sorry to hear of her passing. I am presently in Spain so will not be able to attend the services. My prayers are with her friends and family
Karen Boucher

Pam, you will be so truly missed. You were full of so much joy and laughter. I will miss our banter about the Bruins and other sports when we would see each other. My heart aches you are no longer here. Sending love, positive vibes, and hugs to all. Love you Pam.
Julie Memmolo

Pam: words cannot express how much i miss you already, how much i love you... how much you brought joy and laughter — i just want you here to make fun of me one more time!! My heart hurts with physical pain and i don’t know how to move on... but i hear you yelling at me to snap out of it, to go have fun and not be scared! ❤️❤️❤️ I hope you are feeling the peace you so desperately sought! Love you!

Pa, I want just one more of your right hugs. I want to watch one more Bruins game with you. I want to go and get Five Guys one more time. You are so deeply missed already, I’m not sure how we will, if ever, go on. I miss you so much and love you more.
Nadia Hucko

Pam, with a heavy heart we will say our final goodbyes... you will forever be missed and never forgotten! Thank you for always having a good time with us girls! ❤ sad no one will call me peanut number 2 until we meet again

Stewie : God called home one of the sweetest angels I have had the honor of calling " my friend" ! You will forever hold a special place in my heart. I will miss your friendship, your smile, your amazing personality, your big heart, beautiful soul! Pam : may you rest in peace, I know one day we will meet again. In the mean time - Matt Bova will watch over you! You will forever be my dear friend " Stewie" Love you Always - Doogie! Aka : Pat Doeg
Pat Doeg

Pam was such a warm, genuine, passionate soul. She spoke often and lovingly about her family and children in particular; my thoughts and prayers are with you. We only worked together briefly, but I was glad to have known Pam as a friend. She was the life of the party, a true friend and will be missed by many. RIP Pam-We❤️U
Donna Bristowe

An Aegis sister who worked countless shows will be missed greatly.
Rich Crowley

We are so deeply sorry for your loss. She will be missed by so many. Hope that you can find some peace. Love you guys xo
Dale and Nicole Kamishlian

Love you always
Donna Apicella

"Pam I Am" you will be greatly missed. Such a vibrant personality and presence you brought to all. Your Friend
Deb Saucier

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