Consigli Ruggerio Funeral Home

Steven J. Trettel, 79


     Steven J. Trettel, 79, of Milford, died Tuesday, August 11, 2020 at Milford Regional Medical Center surrounded by his family. He leaves behind his wife of 58 years, Rosemary (DeMichele) Trettel, and their four children: Mark S. Trettel and his wife Maureen of Milford; Kim T. Smith and her husband William of Milford; Matthew J. Trettel of Milford, predeceased by his wife Jacqui; and Gina M. Borden of Milford; thirteen grandchildren: Peter Trettel, David Trettel and his wife Brianna, Joseph Trettel, Andrew Trettel, Theresa Trettel, Maria Trettel, Meghan Trettel, Kristy Smith, Daniel Smith, Steven Trettel, Rebecca Trettel, Amanda Borden, and Brittany Borden; four great grandchildren: Aidan, Autumn, and Zhavia Borden and Brooklyn Trettel; and many nieces and nephews.

Steve was born in Milford, Massachusetts on August 20, 1940 as the only child of Attilio and Perina (Pangrassi) Trettel. With the exception of military service, he lived in Milford his whole life. He graduated from St. Mary’s High School in 1958. After working for a year framing houses with his dad, his father encouraged him to attend college. Steve received his Bachelor’s degree in Civil Engineering from Northeastern University in 1963. He joined the ROTC program during his sophomore year, allowing him to attend MIT on the GI bill and receive his Master’s degree in Civil Engineering in 1973. Steve accomplished this by attending school at night while working full time and helping to raise his four children.

During his high school years, Steve enjoyed playing the accordion in a 3-piece band and later played keyboard in a larger band for 20 years. A performance at a local wedding provided the moment he met his future wife. After hearing Rosemary sing, he took a chance and asked her out.

Steve started his professional career in 1963 at Chicago Bridge and Iron in Pennsylvania. After a year he left to fulfill his military service obligation by serving as a First Lieutenant in the U.S. Army in Schweinfurt, Germany from 1964-1966. He joined Goldberg, Zoino & Associates (GZA Environmental) in 1967, where he became an Associate and helped the company grow to become a national leader in the GeoEnvironmental space. He worked on several major local and national projects before retiring from GZA in 2005 to pursue other independent professional interests.

Steve brought his engineering and entrepreneurial skills to bear beyond his profession, having proudly served as a member and president of the Association of Soil & Foundation Engineers, member of the Claflin Hill Symphony Orchestra Board of Directors, Co‑Chairman of Casino Free Milford, Chairman of Citizens for Milford, Milford Town Meeting member, and consultant for renovations at Sacred Heart and St. Mary of the Assumption churches in Milford. 

Steve’s faith and church life provided a solid foundation for him and his family. He and his wife attended mass and prayed the rosary daily. Steve also served as a lector, Eucharist minister, and member of the Sacred Heart Parish Council and finance committees. Together Steve and Rosemary dedicated over 46 years to hosting Worldwide Marriage Encounter retreats and mentoring new leaders. They also spent more than 30 years preparing couples for marriage through engagement programs.

Steve’s never-ending gardening and construction projects are a testament to his work ethic. Rosemary happily admits to generating the ideas for many of these projects. Steve often worked side by side with his children and grandchildren as an opportunity to pass on skills and spend time together.

Steve will be remembered as a dedicated family man whose marriage was an authentic love story. His love for his wife, children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren were unconditional. His grandchildren will tell you they were as devoted to him as he was to them. Beyond his roles as husband and father, Steve was a mentor and dear friend to many who valued his intelligence and kind and thoughtful manner.

Friends and family are invited to calling hours on Sunday, August 16, 2020 from 4:30 to 7:30 P.M. at St. Mary of the Assumption Church (17 Winter St. Milford) and to Steve’s funeral mass on Monday, August 17 at 10 a.m. in Sacred Heart Church (5 E. Main St. Milford). Burial will follow in the Sacred Heart cemetery on Medway Road in Milford. Strict COVID-19 safety protocols will be in place at all venues. We kindly request that you wear a mask.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Problem Pregnancy of Worcester Sacred Heart of Jesus Church , Milford, MA or St. Mary of the Assumption, Milford, MA or share a memory or message of condolence, please visit Steve’s online guest book on the Consigli-Ruggerio Funeral Home web site.


Guest Book

My sympathy to Rosemary and family. Steve was a wonderful person. I met Steve while attending Northeastern U. Our coop working assignment was at the same company (Eastman & Corbett). Steve and I worked together and socialized together during that time. During that time I became seriously ill (cancer) and Steve's kindness and optimism was the major reason I could maintain a positive outlook for which I will be forever grateful.
Ed Chisholm

Please accept my sincere sympathy .Steve was one of the most sincere people I have ever known. He will be sadly missed by anyone who knew him. Karen DeMichele
Karen DeMichele

We first met Steve and Rosemary towards the end of 2017, after attending our Marriage Encounter in September of that same year. Like so many couples over the last 46 years, we were so blessed to be invited into the Trettel home for the third Friday of each month for Share Circle. These visits always came with a tremendous amount of warmth, love and prayer, and connected us to many wonderful couples. Steve was a mentor to us in marriage, family, faith and community. We felt so deeply loved by Steve, and hope to continue to his legacy in regards to the protection of marriage and the unborn. Steve's mentorship will be incredibly missed, and we so much wish we got many more years with Steve, but we will forever remember his wisdom and again feel blessed for our times at the Trettel home. Steve's life is an immense testimonial to us all! We would all be much better, if we live our lives more like Steve.
Love Always, Eric and Paula Watt

It is with heavy hearts that we send our love and sympathy to Rosemary and family. We had the privilege of working with Steve and Rosemary in Marriage Encounter as well as Marriage Prep for Engaged couples at the Espousal Center for many years. Their love story is a testament to the sacrament of marriage and a living example of God’s love for us. We see their love thru their beautiful family as well. We keep you all in our thoughts and prayers at the sad loss of Steve. We know he is enjoying his heavenly rewards and that he is looking over all of you. We miss you and are grateful for your living example of a life truly lived to the fullest. Love, Bob & Angie Patenaude- Stalilonis
Bob & Angie Patenaude-Stalilonis

There is a hole so big in our lives with Steve gone. The only thing that will fill it will be the tears we shed in remembrance of him. Keeping in mind only the good times, means keeping in mind all of our time together. The third Friday will be so empty without you. Rest in the arms of the Lord, Steve.
Ted & Beth Comstock

Steve and Rosemary affected thousands of young couples whom they prepared for marriage. May the legacy of those weekends continue on through the children and grand-children of those couples to enrich our world with faith-based love relationships that build a strong foundation for community, country and church. What an extraordinary experience it has been to work beside them. Pierre Desilets.
Pierre Desilets

We are so greatly saddened at this loss! Steve has been such a loving and kind inspiration to us. Jeff and I true hope to have the kind of love and marriage like Steve and Rosemary. Our hearts are broken in a thousand pieces knowing that Steve has passed. Rosemary, we are praying for you, your entire family and the massive community of people who Steve has impacted over the years. He has been called home, and although there is comfort in knowing that he is at peace and rest with the Lord, there is a huge gap remaining. This space in our lives where Steve is gone is filled with wonderful memories and his amazing love. We are sending you huge hugs and will continue to pray for your peace and comfort!
Jeff & Tamar Gomes

Weeping, weeping, weeping. We can't believe Steve is gone. Too quick to comprehend. Our condolences to Rosemary and all the Trettel family. WWME has lost a leader and committed friend of the Sacrament of Matrimony. Rest in peace with Christ, Steve. Love, Mitch & Sandy Liro
Mitchell & Sandra Liro

Steve was my school buddy and neighbor, we attended Sacred Heart and St. Marys high together taking the bus every day. He was shy, but a good friend, well liked by all. So happy to see the wonderful life he had. May he rest in peace. My Condolence to his wife and family.
Carol Ferretti Carloni

Rosemary, Kim, Bill,Danny, Kristy and family. We would like to extend our heartfelt condolences to all. Being around Steve and Rosemary at family gatherings was always a pleasure. Always felt comfortable and accepted as they made sure to acknowledge all, and always had something kind to say. . May his kind soul Rest In Peace, and may you all find the strength, love and support to get through the many tough days ahead from family and friends. And may the happy memories overflow the sadness you feel. God Bless Nancy, Joe Metivier and family
Nancy Metivier

Dear Gina, Ed and I offer condolences to you and your wonderful family. You and your dad had a very special relationship. You have shared With me your love and respect of both your parents. May you and your family be surrounded and immersed in God’s love and protection as you grieve the loss of your dad. God Bless all of you with Peace and Love. Respectfully and With Love, Par Davison and Ed Murray.
Patricia Davison

Looking back and remembering as young couples our time with Fr. Masciocchi and the wonderful doors he opened for our spiritual life, may Steve bask in his presence in Heaven, he gave so much and always was a wonderful example for all of us, Rosemary and family prayers to all
The Paul G. Beccia Family

Our hearts go out to the Trettel family at this very sad time. You are in our thoughts and prayers and now Steve is safe in the arms of Jesus. The Thomas Byrne Family.... Jan, Michelle, Meridith and Aimee
Janice Byrne

We will always remember the warm welcome and great hospitality that Steve & Rosemary gave us when we stayed overnight at their house to attend a Marriage Encounter Region meeting, including a sharing circle meeting in their home. They always gave us a big hung and welcome when we saw them at many ME functions following that initial welcome. We are deeply sadden by Steve's passing. But we know that he is in the arms of the Lord now and probably enjoying a good conversation with St. Joseph about carpentry!
Jim & Gerri Gibney

We are deeply saddened by the passing of Steve. Steve and Rosemary were dear friends and mentors to us as we served in Marriage Encounter. Words cannot explain the lose of Steve to us as well as to the many people he has touched in a positive way. I used to call Steve the major of Milford as he did so much to support the community and its citizens. Steve once said that I hope that all of what we do helps me store treasures or as he put it, his 401k in heaven. We know Steve has achieved his reward and the world was made a better place because of Steve. You will be deeply missed
Greg and Donna Cambio

Steve was always a fun guy to talk with. I am thankful for the many talks we"ve had ogether over the years. But the one thing that was constant in every conversation was family. He loved his big family and they loved him. You will be missed Steve but your legacy has just begun. John and Lisa Smith
john and Lisa Smith

With deepest sympathy and condolences to the family
Theresa, Andrew, and Linda Lizotte

With deepest sympathy and condolences to the family
Theresa, Andrew, and Linda Lizotte

We were deeply saddened to hear about the loss of such a wonderful man. We never knew a kinder more considerate person. It has always been a pleasure and a privilege to have known Steve for so many years. Steve will be greatly missed by all. And the neighborhood will never be the same. A father’s love is a special gift that will live forever in the hearts of his children and all of his family. If you had asked what the best part of his life was, I think he would have said being your dad, husband and grandfather. As you keep his love in your hearts, please know warm thoughts of support and caring are also with you now and in the days to come. Sending all our love and prayers to you all,
Diane and John Ciccarelli

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